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50 Excellent & Fun Relationship Building Questions

Here's a list of 50 of my favorite relationship building questions. Use this tool to build relationships at work, home, and with your friends. They work well for team meetings and family events. Enjoy!

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A Simple & Powerful Stress Coping Tool

Clients frequently ask for help in coping with stress. Most people can identify the source of their tension (e.g. parenting, relationships, the economy, money, job, health, COVID, etc.), but often CANNOT figure out how to stop the worry. This article will give you a tool you CAN use to help you handle anything bothering you.

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Overwhelmed Man

What to Do When Emotionally Overwhelmed

In these emotionally flooding situations, your brain's emotional center, called the amygdala, overrides your pre-frontal cortex, the rational part of your brain. I call this “brain-lock”, where my brain becomes useless, except for fleeing the situation quickly or fighting whatever seems threatening.

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12 Dating & Marriage Building Activities

A healthy marriage takes effort, but it’s well worth it, especially when you count the costs of divorce (financial, emotional, etc.). Here are 12 activities that can take your marriage from average to extraordinary.

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Grateful Woman

25 Gratitude Building Questions

We all have seasons in our lives when it's very hard to be positive. I can easily view myself as the victim. Gratitude is one of the only things that can end my pity party. 

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Question Man Aha Moment

My 20 Favorite Questions to Ask Clients

People are longing for connection. Connecting at the heart level changes everything for the better. Human connection heals! As you prepare for interactions with your family, friends & co-workers, here are some questions that can strengthen bonds.

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Creating a Work Culture that’s Positive & Productive

Over the past 20 years as a therapist, trainer, and coach, I've helped over 2,000 families thrive, and over 250 companies improve their work culture. There are similarities between the healthiest companies and families. Here are three traits they have in common.

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Why You Should Deal with Your Past

I want my clients to live full and free lives. I don't want the past holding them back. Frequently I challenge clients to process, and come to terms with, past trauma. Their future, and mine, depends on us facing our demons.

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Stressed Out Young Woman

Overcoming Anxiety & Depression

Anxiety focuses on what can go wrong. It zeroes in on the worst outcome coming true and bad things happening again. Hope focuses on what can go right, and the opportunity in every circumstance.

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Anxious Man

Fear vs Hope Cycle

Most everyone is struggling with the fear and unknown related to COVID-19. You can take specific actions that will significantly help with the anxiety.

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Facing Your Fear

Stop Letting Fear Damage Your Life

What's your biggest fear in life? Mine is probably rejection in its various forms. I want people to like me. Ironically, the more I try and be what other people want me to be, the more fear I have.

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Finding Clarity

Why I Started Decide Your Legacy

Decide Your Legacy was created to help people find transformational clarity and face their biggest fears. At times, due to my own insecurities, I've played it safe and steered away from this purpose, yet I always end up back at where I started.  

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22 Tips for Strengthening Relationships

This article is on strengthening connections at home and work. 20 practical tips for strengthening connections. If you want to build great relationships, the tips below will certainly help.

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Critical Woman

How to Be Less Critical & More Encouraging

I can be critical of others. That’s been my strategy for staying safe. With clients and strangers, I’m usually positive and encouraging. With close friends and family, I can be negative. I don't want to get hurt again. Here are 5 relationship strategies helping me break this horrible habit.  

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Life Coach

How to Select a Great Life Coach (or Counselor)

The success you experience in coaching depends, in part, on the quality of the professional you hire. Here are some qualities I look for in a coach. Hopefully this list will help you make the best choice possible.

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A Simple Stress Management Tool

I struggle with managing stress. The good news is that I can win this fight, and so can you. I frequently help clients learn to manage stress at both work and home. Here’s one of the tools I teach.

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11 Fun Ice Breakers for Work & Social Events

Ice breakers, to start off a meeting, can make a positive difference. They can be used in person or during virtual team meetings (e.g. Zoom or MicroSoft Teams.

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Stop Procrastinating & Get Things Done

Clients share with me frustrations about not getting things done. They almost always know what they need to do, but they don't do it. Here are 4 strategies I use to help myself and clients overcome procrastination.

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Successfully Navigating Life Transitions

I've had some very dark days when I felt my life was totally falling apart. Things I thought could never happen, happened. Here are three essential actions that have helped me make it through tough life transitions.

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