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25 Tips for Strengthening Relationships
Here's the ULTIMATE guide for building relationships. 25 practical tools for strengthening your connections at home and work.
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50 Fun Relationship-Building Questions
Here's a list of 50 of my favorite relationship building questions. Use this tool to build relationships at work, home, and with your friends. They work well for team meetings and family events. Enjoy!
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12 Tools for Regulating Your Emotions
What situations trigger you emotionally? Be prepared to handle these situations different differently, in a positive fashion. Here are 12 ways to regulate your emotions when triggered.
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3 Foolproof Ways to Motivate Your Team
Over the past 20 years as a family therapist, trainer, and coach, I've helped over 2,000 families and over 200 companies improve their work culture. There are similarities between the healthiest companies and families. Here are three traits they have in common.
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My 20 Favorite Questions to Ask Clients
Human connection heals! As you prepare for interactions with your family, friends & co-workers, here are some questions that can strengthen bonds.
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How to Make Good Decisions
I've wasted countless hours in turmoil over decisions. Indecision has hurt my career and cost me financially. I've frustrated family and friends because I couldn't make up my mind. Few things stress me out more than major choices, and few things bring me as much relief as getting decisions made.
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30 Happiness Building Actions
There's a lack of happiness and no shortage of stress and anxiety in the world today. People who take care of their mental health do things differently. They engage in actions that are distinct from those who struggle.
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Clarifying a Vision for Your Future
We are 100 times more motivated moving towards what we want, than away from what we don't want. Create a picture of what you want! Our goals lead you toward your vision, or they're not the right goals.
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Why You Must Face Your Past
I want my clients to live full and free lives. I don't want the past holding them back. Frequently I challenge clients to process, and come to terms with, past trauma. Their future, and mine, depends on us facing our demons.
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Taking Decisive & Consistent Action
If we don't risk getting hurt emotionally, we hinder our ability to feel good emotionally. Emotional vulnerability is a lifelong struggle and crucial to being emotionally healthy. We grow from experiencing failure, rejection & embarrassment and realizing we can handle it.
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25 Gratitude Building Questions
We all have seasons in our lives when it's very hard to be positive. I can easily view myself as the victim. Gratitude is one of the only things that can end my pity party.
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12 Dating & Marriage Building Activities
A healthy marriage takes effort, but it’s well worth it, especially when you count the costs of divorce (financial, emotional, etc.). Here are 12 activities that can take your marriage from average to extraordinary.
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Fear vs Hope Cycle
Everyone struggles with fear & anxiety at different points. Sometimes it's triggered by trauma. Sometimes a lack of sleep can sleep causes it. You can take specific actions to change your perspective from fear to hope.
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A Simple & Powerful Stress Coping Tool
Clients frequently ask for help in coping with stress. Most people can identify the source of their tension (e.g. parenting, relationships, the economy, money, job, health, COVID, etc.), but often CANNOT figure out how to stop the worry.
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Overcoming Anxiety & Depression
Anxiety focuses on what can go wrong. It zeroes in on the worst outcome coming true and bad things happening again. Hope focuses on what can go right, and the opportunity in every circumstance.
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18 Ways to Build Self-Confidence
I went skydiving in 2019. I did it partly to face a fear I had for over 20 years. Skydiving can be a self-confidence builder. Here are 18 even better ways to build your self-confidence.
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Stop Procrastinating & Get Things Done
Clients share with me frustrations about not getting things done. They almost always know what they need to do, but they don't do it. Here are 4 strategies I use to help myself and clients overcome procrastination.
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How to Be Grateful When Life Is Hard
EaIt's easy to find things to worry about and dread. Being grateful is much harder, yet ironically, our gratitude usually significantly more grounded in reality than our anxieties. So many things in life are outside our control, but one thing you can directly influence is your perspective.
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25 Books That Have Changed My Life
I've read a lot of books and a special few have inspired me deeply. Some books have changed, and possibly saved, my life. I want to share them with you.
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15 Ways Adults Can Make New Friends
I’m often asked by clients for advice on how to make new friends. Many people are lonely. Here are the 15 suggestions to help you expand your support network and increase your connections.
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3 Keys to Lowering Anxiety
Anxiety robs us of enjoying life. It's the great thief of our time. You should view it as your biggest enemy. Stop letting fear get the best of you.
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Kickstart Your Self Confidence
History is filled with examples of people who ended up successful who started with nothing and others who overcame the most challenging of circumstances. What you'll find is that you CAN improve your self-confidence if you work at it.
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Why I Started Decide Your Legacy
Decide Your Legacy was created to help people find transformational clarity and face their biggest fears. At times, due to my own insecurities, I've played it safe and steered away from this purpose, yet I always end up back at where I started.
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How to Select a Great Life Coach (or Counselor)
The success you experience in coaching depends, in part, on the quality of the professional you hire. Here are some qualities I look for in a coach. Hopefully this list will help you make the best choice possible.
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