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50 Excellent & Fun Relationship Building Questions
Here's a list of 50 of my favorite relationship building questions. Use this tool to build relationships at work, home, and with your friends. They work well for team meetings and family events. Enjoy!
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A Simple & Powerful Stress Coping Tool
Clients frequently ask for help in coping with stress. Most people can identify the source of their tension (e.g. parenting, relationships, the economy, money, job, health, COVID, etc.), but often CANNOT figure out how to stop the worry. This article will give you a tool you CAN use to help you handle anything bothering you.
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What to Do When Emotionally Overwhelmed
In these emotionally flooding situations, your brain's emotional center, called the amygdala, overrides your pre-frontal cortex, the rational part of your brain. I call this “brain-lock”, where my brain becomes useless, except for fleeing the situation quickly or fighting whatever seems threatening.
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12 Dating & Marriage Building Activities
A healthy marriage takes effort, but it’s well worth it, especially when you count the costs of divorce (financial, emotional, etc.). Here are 12 activities that can take your marriage from average to extraordinary.
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25 Gratitude Building Questions
We all have seasons in our lives when it's very hard to be positive. I can easily view myself as the victim. Gratitude is one of the only things that can end my pity party.
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My 20 Favorite Questions to Ask Clients
People are longing for connection. Connecting at the heart level changes everything for the better. Human connection heals! As you prepare for interactions with your family, friends & co-workers, here are some questions that can strengthen bonds.
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Creating a Work Culture that’s Positive & Productive
Over the past 20 years as a therapist, trainer, and coach, I've helped over 2,000 families thrive, and over 250 companies improve their work culture. There are similarities between the healthiest companies and families. Here are three traits they have in common.
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Why You Should Deal with Your Past
I want my clients to live full and free lives. I don't want the past holding them back. Frequently I challenge clients to process, and come to terms with, past trauma. Their future, and mine, depends on us facing our demons.
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Overcoming Anxiety & Depression
Anxiety focuses on what can go wrong. It zeroes in on the worst outcome coming true and bad things happening again. Hope focuses on what can go right, and the opportunity in every circumstance.
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Fear vs Hope Cycle
Most everyone is struggling with the fear and unknown related to COVID-19. You can take specific actions that will significantly help with the anxiety.
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Stop Letting Fear Damage Your Life
What's your biggest fear in life? Mine is probably rejection in its various forms. I want people to like me. Ironically, the more I try and be what other people want me to be, the more fear I have.
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Why I Started Decide Your Legacy
Decide Your Legacy was created to help people find transformational clarity and face their biggest fears. At times, due to my own insecurities, I've played it safe and steered away from this purpose, yet I always end up back at where I started.
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22 Tips for Strengthening Relationships
This article is on strengthening connections at home and work. 20 practical tips for strengthening connections. If you want to build great relationships, the tips below will certainly help.
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How to Be Less Critical & More Encouraging
I can be critical of others. That’s been my strategy for staying safe. With clients and strangers, I’m usually positive and encouraging. With close friends and family, I can be negative. I don't want to get hurt again. Here are 5 relationship strategies helping me break this horrible habit.
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How to Select a Great Life Coach (or Counselor)
The success you experience in coaching depends, in part, on the quality of the professional you hire. Here are some qualities I look for in a coach. Hopefully this list will help you make the best choice possible.
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A Simple Stress Management Tool
I struggle with managing stress. The good news is that I can win this fight, and so can you. I frequently help clients learn to manage stress at both work and home. Here’s one of the tools I teach.
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11 Fun Ice Breakers for Work & Social Events
Ice breakers, to start off a meeting, can make a positive difference. They can be used in person or during virtual team meetings (e.g. Zoom or MicroSoft Teams.
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Stop Procrastinating & Get Things Done
Clients share with me frustrations about not getting things done. They almost always know what they need to do, but they don't do it. Here are 4 strategies I use to help myself and clients overcome procrastination.
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Successfully Navigating Life Transitions
I've had some very dark days when I felt my life was totally falling apart. Things I thought could never happen, happened. Here are three essential actions that have helped me make it through tough life transitions.
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