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Life Coaching and Counseling
Decision Making

How to Make Good Decisions

I've wasted countless hours in turmoil over decisions. Indecision has hurt my career and cost me financially. I've frustrated family and friends because I couldn't make up my mind. Few things stress me out more than major choices, and few things bring me as much relief as getting decisions made.

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Happiness

30 Happiness Building Actions

There's a lack of happiness and no shortage of stress and anxiety in the world today. People who take care of their mental health do things differently. They engage in actions that are distinct from those who struggle.

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Man With a Vision

Clarifying a Vision for Your Future

We are 100 times more motivated moving towards what we want, than away from what we don't want. Create a picture of what you want! Our goals lead you toward your vision, or they're not the right goals.

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Why You Must Face Your Past

I want my clients to live full and free lives. I don't want the past holding them back. Frequently I challenge clients to process, and come to terms with, past trauma. Their future, and mine, depends on us facing our demons.

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Overwhelmed

12 Tools for Regulating Your Emotions

What situations trigger you emotionally? Be prepared to handle these situations different differently, in a positive fashion. Here are 12 ways to regulate your emotions when triggered.

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Young couple in cafe

50 Fun Relationship-Building Questions

Here's a list of 50 of my favorite relationship building questions. Use this tool to build relationships at work, home, and with your friends. They work well for team meetings and family events. Enjoy!

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Question Man Aha Moment

My 20 Favorite Questions to Ask Clients

People are longing for connection. Connecting at the heart level changes everything for the better. Human connection heals! As you prepare for interactions with your family, friends & co-workers, here are some questions that can strengthen bonds.

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Vulnerability

Taking Decisive & Consistent Action

If we don't risk getting hurt emotionally, we hinder our ability to feel good emotionally. Emotional vulnerability is a lifelong struggle and crucial to being emotionally healthy. We grow from experiencing failure, rejection & embarrassment and realizing we can handle it. 

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Grateful Woman

25 Gratitude Building Questions

We all have seasons in our lives when it's very hard to be positive. I can easily view myself as the victim. Gratitude is one of the only things that can end my pity party. 

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Dating Marriage

12 Dating & Marriage Building Activities

A healthy marriage takes effort, but it’s well worth it, especially when you count the costs of divorce (financial, emotional, etc.). Here are 12 activities that can take your marriage from average to extraordinary.

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Young Professionals Having Meeting in Glass Office

3 Foolproof Ways to Motivate Your Team

Over the past 20 years as a family therapist, trainer, and coach, I've helped over 2,000 families and over 200 companies improve their work culture. There are similarities between the healthiest companies and families. Here are three traits they have in common.

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Without hope

Fear vs Hope Cycle

Everyone struggles with fear & anxiety at different points. Sometimes it's triggered by trauma. Sometimes a lack of sleep can sleep causes it. You can take specific actions to change your perspective from fear to hope.

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A Simple & Powerful Stress Coping Tool

Clients frequently ask for help in coping with stress. Most people can identify the source of their tension (e.g. parenting, relationships, the economy, money, job, health, COVID, etc.), but often CANNOT figure out how to stop the worry.

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Stressed Out Young Woman

Overcoming Anxiety & Depression

Anxiety focuses on what can go wrong. It zeroes in on the worst outcome coming true and bad things happening again. Hope focuses on what can go right, and the opportunity in every circumstance.

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Scary Skydiving

Improve Your Mental Health Today

Not much will improve your mental health faster than facing your fears. Nothing is more damaging to your mental health than playing it safe. Here are 17 scary actions you can take to work on this.

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Negative Self Image

How to Change Damaging Mindsets

Negative core beliefs are deeply, and often unconsciously, held beliefs about ourselves and the world. They form during our upbringing and further develop through life experiences.

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Eliminate Mental Clutter & Procrastination

Do you procrastinate? Most procrastination is driven by anxiety & control. You avoid engaging in core tasks believing this will keep you safe.

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Reading in the library

4 Books I Want All My Clients to Read

In addition to gaining insight and self-awareness, reading inspiring books has led to major shifts in my attitude. Here are 4 books that have improved my life and will improve your life as well.

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Team having fun

11 Fun Ice Breakers for Work & Social Events

Ice breakers, to start off a meeting, can make a positive difference. They can be used in person or during virtual team meetings (e.g. Zoom or MicroSoft Teams.

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Woman living with balance

12 Life Balance Tips

My clients frequently tell me they struggle with life balance but they misunderstand the concept. To most, they have a perpectionistic mindset about what it is, so they give up on it as an objective. If this is you, I'm confident these 12 tips will help.

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