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25 Books That Have Changed My Life for the Better

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I’ve read a lot of books and special few have inspired me deeply. Some have changed and possibly saved my life, and I want to share them with you.  Here’s how I decided on my list:1. I’ve read the book multiple times because it’s been so helpful.2. I love it so much, I’ve had it in more than one format (eBook, print, audio, etc.)3. The book is so relevant, I can see myself reading and recommending it 25 years from now. 4. The book follows the K.I.S.S principle. Keep It Super Simple. The book...

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Why I Decided to Start Decide Your Legacy (Part 2)

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I started Decide Your Legacy because I love helping clients uncover their potential and find their best future. I started this business because I believe in coaching.I’ve been a mental health professional for over 20 years, and while I enjoy much about this role, coaching is my passion. There are HUGE differences between coaching and counseling approaches. Counseling is about …..1. The therapist is the expert2. Your problems and how they keep you stuck3. Your past4. How you’re doing things by default5. Healing old wounds6....

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How to Connect with Almost Anyone

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Nobody can succeed and thrive in life without loving relationships. We are not fueled by achievement, but by connection. If you get this backwards, you’ll feel worthless when you fail, life stops going well, or others achieve more. Furthermore, you’ll end up miserable as a victim of the comparison trap. Very few people feel deeply worthy of love. Both your friends and your enemies, if they’re honest with themselves, struggle with feeling inadequate. People desperately want to feel accepted, and you can help them by...

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Why I Started Decide Your Legacy (Part 1)

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Decide Your Legacy was created to inspire people to intentionally focus on their future. At times, due to fear and distractions, we’ve steered away from the purpose, yet it always comes back around to helping others “Find Their Best Future”.  Decide Your Legacy was created to help people clarify a plan for their life. A Legacy Plan. Something flexible, not rigid. A framework, a guide, a reminder. A Legacy Plan comes out of courage, not fear. It propels you forward to face...

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18 Ways to Build Self-Confidence (Part 2)

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I once boxed in an amateur boxing tournament. I did it to prove to myself that I could face fear. It was a good decision. Building confidence always involves facing your fears. Here are 9 more confidence building decisions. If you didn’t read part 1 where I discuss the first 9 of these 18 actions, you can access it here.  “Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing.” – Theodore Roosevelt   18 Confidence Building Decisions Decision #10: Be Humble I can be filled with self-pity...

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18 Ways to Build Self-Confidence (Part 1)

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I once jumped off a crane wearing only ankle straps. I was only 18, and it probably wasn’t safe. Spontaneously doing risky things in a foreign country isn’t a great long-term confidence building strategy.  Here are some healthy ways you can build self-confidence. 18 Confidence Building Decisions Decision #1: Take Risks, Fail, Get up When you fail, get rejected, or embarrassed, and still choose to believe in yourself, you’re really growing. Decide today what 2 scary things you are going to do tomorrow. Make the phone call,...

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Take Risks Frequently!

Posted by on 3:27 pm in Blog, Productivity, Relationships, Stress | 0 comments

There are certain powerful emotions I never want to feel again. Super strong feelings of rejection, failure, and embarrassment. Because of this hurt from my past, my mind (i.e. psyche) bullies me into doing whatever I can to avoid feeling that way again. So, I’ll hide out avoiding life thinking this is helping me when it is actually hurting me. I’m believing psychologically damaged advice. The worst advice you can ever take is from a fearful mind. Brene Brown helped me see that if you don’t risk getting hurt emotionally...

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How To Be Emotionally Healthy (Part 1)

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I’m a middle child from a loud and emotional family. Growing up, everyone expressed how they felt – except for me. I decided at a young age to hide my feelings and live inside my head. There’s a correlation between a lack of healthy emotional expression with depression and anxiety. How do I know this? Well, from research, as well as, from my own personal experience. From age 16 to 22, I used negative coping mechanisms to contain my feelings (e.g. worry, alcohol, nicotine, social isolation, etc.) Some of these coping...

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7 Questions That Can Positively Transform Your Relationship

Posted by on 8:29 am in Marriage, Relationships | 0 comments

Here’s 7 questions you can ask your partner each week to help you bond. They could positively transform your connection. 7 Great Questions 1. What are the main stressors for you this week? What can I do to help? 2. What’s something I can do to help you with your career, parenting, health, friendships, or your spiritual life? 3. How can we make time to connect this week? What would you like to do to connect? 4. What’s one thing I can do MORE of this week to help our relationship? 5. What’s one thing I can do LESS of...

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Why You Should Deal with Your Past (Part 2)

Posted by on 5:37 pm in Blog, Life Balance, Relationships, Stress | 0 comments

You cannot erase your past, but you can change your perspective. You have influence over your attitude and actions today, not what happened yesterday.  Some people will do almost anything to avoid addressing their past. Trying to go back and make sense of it all seems too painful. What they don’t understand is that not making peace with their past causes much more long term pain. Closure brings freedom. 3 More BIG Reasons to Go Back & Get...

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