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Fear vs Hope Cycle
Everyone struggles with fear & anxiety at different points. Sometimes it's triggered by trauma. Sometimes a lack of sleep can sleep causes it. You can take specific actions to change your perspective from fear to hope.
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Why You Should Deal with Your Past
I want my clients to live full and free lives. I don't want the past holding them back. Frequently I challenge clients to process, and come to terms with, past trauma. Their future, and mine, depends on us facing our demons.
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3 Tips for Improving Your Work Environment
Over the past 20 years as a family therapist, trainer, and coach, I've helped over 2,000 families and over 200 companies improve their work culture. There are similarities between the healthiest companies and families. Here are three traits they have in common.
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A Simple & Powerful Stress Coping Tool
Clients frequently ask for help in coping with stress. Most people can identify the source of their tension (e.g. parenting, relationships, the economy, money, job, health, COVID, etc.), but often CANNOT figure out how to stop the worry.
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My 20 Favorite Questions to Ask Clients
People are longing for connection. Connecting at the heart level changes everything for the better. Human connection heals! As you prepare for interactions with your family, friends & co-workers, here are some questions that can strengthen bonds.
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What to Do When Emotionally Overwhelmed
In these emotionally flooding situations, your brain's emotional center, called the amygdala, overrides your pre-frontal cortex, the rational part of your brain. I call this “brain-lock”, where my brain becomes useless, except for fleeing the situation quickly or fighting whatever seems threatening.
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25 Gratitude Building Questions
We all have seasons in our lives when it's very hard to be positive. I can easily view myself as the victim. Gratitude is one of the only things that can end my pity party.
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50 Excellent & Fun Relationship Building Questions
Here's a list of 50 of my favorite relationship building questions. Use this tool to build relationships at work, home, and with your friends. They work well for team meetings and family events. Enjoy!
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12 Dating & Marriage Building Activities
A healthy marriage takes effort, but it’s well worth it, especially when you count the costs of divorce (financial, emotional, etc.). Here are 12 activities that can take your marriage from average to extraordinary.
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Overcoming Anxiety & Depression
Anxiety focuses on what can go wrong. It zeroes in on the worst outcome coming true and bad things happening again. Hope focuses on what can go right, and the opportunity in every circumstance.
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How to Find Clarity in Life
I had a big problem in 7th grade. I was being bullied. Most of the bullying came at the hands of one "much bigger" kid in particular, but others participated as well. Hair spray was sprayed in my face, my bike was stolen, one kid even pooped on my front porch (I am not making this stuff up, just ask my parents). It was non-stop and relentless at school and even away from school. I would not stand up for myself.
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4 Things That Make Work Suck
Through helping hundred of companies I've noticed 4 major reasons some workplaces struggle. If leaders eliminate these issues, morale dramatically improves and their organizations profit. Leaders can, and should, take action to eliminate each one.
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How To Be Emotionally Healthy
There's a correlation between a lack of healthy emotional expression with depression and anxiety. How do I know this? Well, from research, as well as, from my own personal experience. But there is hope! The healthier you become emotionally, the better life gets.
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Why I Started Decide Your Legacy
Decide Your Legacy was created to help people find transformational clarity and face their biggest fears. At times, due to my own insecurities, I've played it safe and steered away from this purpose, yet I always end up back at where I started.
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15 Ways Adults Can Make New Friends
I’m often asked by clients for advice on how to make new friends. Many people are lonely. Here are the 15 suggestions to help you expand your support network and increase your connections.
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25 Books That Have Changed My Life
I've read a lot of books and a special few have inspired me deeply. Some books have changed, and possibly saved, my life. I want to share them with you.
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Coping with Anxiety
The many uncertainties of life these days has caused lots of people to worry. Many people, without knowing it, make their anxiety much worst for three reasons. Here are 3 ways to no longer let your fears get the best of you.
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