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18 Ways to Build Self-Confidence (Part 2)

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I once boxed in an amateur boxing tournament. I did it to prove to myself that I could face fear. It was a good decision. Building confidence always involves facing your fears. Here are 9 more confidence building decisions. If you didn’t read part 1 where I discuss the first 9 of these 18 actions, you can access it here.  “Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing.” – Theodore Roosevelt   18 Confidence Building Decisions Decision #10: Be Humble I can be filled with self-pity...

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18 Ways to Build Self-Confidence (Part 1)

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I once jumped off a crane wearing only ankle straps. I was only 18, and it probably wasn’t safe. Spontaneously doing risky things in a foreign country isn’t a great long-term confidence building strategy.  Here are some healthy ways you can build self-confidence. 18 Confidence Building Decisions Decision #1: Take Risks, Fail, Get up When you fail, get rejected, or embarrassed, and still choose to believe in yourself, you’re really growing. Decide today what 2 scary things you are going to do tomorrow. Make the phone call,...

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Take Risks Frequently!

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There are certain powerful emotions I never want to feel again. Super strong feelings of rejection, failure, and embarrassment. Because of this hurt from my past, my mind (i.e. psyche) bullies me into doing whatever I can to avoid feeling that way again. So, I’ll hide out avoiding life thinking this is helping me when it is actually hurting me. I’m believing psychologically damaged advice. The worst advice you can ever take is from a fearful mind. Brene Brown helped me see that if you don’t risk getting hurt emotionally...

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How To Be Emotionally Healthy (Part 1)

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I’m a middle child from a loud and emotional family. Growing up, everyone expressed how they felt – except for me. I decided at a young age to hide my feelings and live inside my head. There’s a correlation between a lack of healthy emotional expression with depression and anxiety. How do I know this? Well, from research, as well as, from my own personal experience. From age 16 to 22, I used negative coping mechanisms to contain my feelings (e.g. worry, alcohol, nicotine, social isolation, etc.) Some of these coping...

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7 Questions That Can Positively Transform Your Relationship

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Here’s 7 questions you can ask your partner each week to help you bond. They could positively transform your connection. 7 Great Questions 1. What are the main stressors for you this week? What can I do to help? 2. What’s something I can do to help you with your career, parenting, health, friendships, or your spiritual life? 3. How can we make time to connect this week? What would you like to do to connect? 4. What’s one thing I can do MORE of this week to help our relationship? 5. What’s one thing I can do LESS of...

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Why You Should Deal with Your Past (Part 2)

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You cannot erase your past, but you can change your perspective. You have influence over your attitude and actions today, not what happened yesterday.  Some people will do almost anything to avoid addressing their past. Trying to go back and make sense of it all seems too painful. What they don’t understand is that not making peace with their past causes much more long term pain. Closure brings freedom. 3 More BIG Reasons to Go Back & Get...

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50 Excellent & Fun Relationship Building Questions

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Genuine, authentic, and heartfelt conversations connect people and can transform relationships. Here’s a list of 50 of my favorite relationship building questions. They’re mostly light and fun, get you to think, and come from 20 years of getting people to open up as a professional counselor. Save it on your desktop or print off this tool to build relationships at work, home, and with your friends. It works great for team meetings and family events (e.g. Easter weekend). Enjoy! 50 Relationship Building Questions My passion is to...

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How to Stop Worrying & Get Out of Your Head

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With all I know about mental health, I still get stuck in worry. I’m often the most negative person I know. Here are three things you must do to get unstuck from your fears and anxieties. Watch the Video Below Funny Videos I’ve Watched Dozens of Times:Ultimate Dog TeaseJim Gaffigan – Camping, waking up, and baconThe Farting Old Man Returns! Purchase The Legacy Jar for $20 An Excellent Communication Game & Tool To Strengthen Your Work Team, Family, and Friendships.  The Legacy Jar Adam Gragg is a corporate...

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How to Create a Positive & Productive Work Environment

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Over the past 20 years as a therapist, trainer, and coach, I’ve helped over 1,000 families and over 250 companies thrive. There are similarities between the healthiest companies and families. Here are three traits they have in common. 1. They Foster Healthy Connection They consistently create opportunities for relationships to form and go deeper. Members spend quality time together. Activities are intentionally planned, and everyone looks forward to these times together. Encourage Connection at Work by …. Planning regular social...

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Stop Letting Fear Damage Your Life

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What’s your biggest fear in life? Mine is probably rejection in its various forms. I want people to like me. Ironically, the more I try and be what other people want me to be, the more fear I have. My anxiety also grows the more I hide from situations where I can be rejected. When I follow my heart, ignore my head, and put myself out there, anxiety loses its power. “So, first of all, let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself – nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes...

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