Recently I found out my daughter had not been wearing her retainer for multiple days in a row. I found this out right before bed. I addressed my concern, but not in the healthiest way. I had trouble regulating my emotions.
How often do you have interactions like this when suddenly, out of nowhere, you become emotionally overwhelmed? Maybe this has happened with a boss, co-worker, or someone in your family. Do you know what triggered you?
In emotionally flooding situations, your brain’s emotional center, called the amygdala, overrides your pre-frontal cortex, the rational part of your brain. I call this “brain-lock”, where my brain becomes useless, except for fleeing the situation quickly or fighting whatever seems threatening.
When Under “Brain-Lock”
- My heart pounds and my breathing gets faster
- I lose my sense of humor
- My problem-solving abilities stink
- I take almost everything personally
- My social skills dwindle
- I’m much less creative
- I see everything as negative
- I pretty much suck to be around
Hopefully, you have an idea of the people and situations that trigger you emotionally. Be prepared to handle these situations different differently, in a positive fashion. Here are 12 ways to regulate your emotions when triggered. Each activity can be engaging in just 2 to 10 minutes.
12 Ways to Regulate Your Emotions
1. Expand Your Time Horizon
Focus less on today and more on your future. Think about your future vision and your goals. Write your top 3 goals for the next 12 months on an index card. Pull it out whenever you’re flooded.
2. Organize
Take 10 minutes to organize your pictures on your computer, your files in DropBox, your iPhone, your desk, a room, or a bookshelf.
3. Read
Escape for a few minutes in an interesting book. Flip through a magazine on a favorite hobby.
4. Think About a Hobby
Focus for a few minutes mentally on something you enjoy. Maybe you can play golf in your mind, go fishing, go on a walk at the park, play card games, or dream about cooking a great meal.
5. Assert Yourself
Sometimes it’s best to simply state how you feel and what you want. Here’s a downloadable worksheet that can help.
ASSERTIVENESS WORKSHEET
6. Get Active Physically
Exercise helps prevent “brain-lock” and engages your pre-frontal cortex once “brain-lock” has set in. A walk for 10 minutes might be all you need.
7. Listen
Listening to an audiobook, podcast, or music can do the trick. Be careful to choose uplifting content, not content that fuels negative emotions.
8. How To Videos
YouTube can do wonders. Watch positive and uplifting content. Funny content can be inspiring as well. I’m a big fan of Ted Talks for this purpose.
9. Journal
Journaling your thoughts, ideas, emotions, and more is nearly always great for calming down a flooded mind. Writing requires moving away from the emotional part of our brains.
10. Gratitude
Thinking about and writing down what you’re grateful for can work wonders.
11. Breath
Slow your breathing and put space between you and what is overwhelming you. Practice pushing your belly out and filling it
with air. Find a technique that works for you. 10 deep breaths can do wonders for an anxious mind. Calm and Headspace are meditation apps many of my clients have found helpful.12. Live in the Now
Focus on “being where your feet are” for the time being. I’m sure this sounds strange AND it basically means to stop focusing on what happened in the past and any concern about the future chose to enjoy what you are doing now.
13. Do Something Different
Do the opposite of what you would normally do in this situation. For example, if you would normally be critical of someone in the situation then take that same energy and encourage someone. If you would normally avoid people when triggered then use that energy to engage people instead.
Try a few of these and see which ones help the most. A time-out for just a few minutes can give you the confidence to stay engaged in tough situations. Avoidance only makes anxiety worse. Try something different and have a plan. Keep practicing and find out what will calm your mind down the most.
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