What’s your biggest fear in life? Mine is probably rejection in its various forms. I want people to like me. Ironically, the more I try and be what other people want me to be, the more fear I have.
My anxiety also grows the more I hide from situations where I can be rejected. When I follow my heart, ignore my head, and put myself out there, anxiety loses its power.
“So, first of all, let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself – nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance.”Franklin D. Roosevelt, Inaugural Address, 3/4/1933
What do you think about these statements:
(a) I am not a mistake.
(b) God made me for a positive purpose, and if I allow it, good things are ahead for me.
(c) God loves me just as I am regardless of my performance, successes, and failures.
(d) There are people who love me just as I am regardless of my performance, successes, and failures.
(e) I have great influence over my future because I can DECIDE to make good choices today.
If you believed all of the above in your heart – and you should because they are true – how would that impact you? I mean really believe. Not just a cognitive “in your head” type of belief, but a confident “I know these things are really true about me” experiential type of belief. What would happen? How would I think differently?
7 Questions to Overcome the Anxiety
1: How would I think differently?
Examples: seeing the opportunities and not just the problems, trust good people
2: How would I behave differently around others?
Examples: look people in the eyes, be friendly with others
3: What would I start doing more?
Examples: meeting new people, going to concerts, going to church
4: What would I stop doing that I do now?
Examples: letting my boss take advantage of my flexibility, hanging out with bad influences
5: Who would I spend most of my time with?
Examples: eliminating negative people and engaging focused and positive people
6: What boundaries would I start setting with people?
Examples: working no more than 50 hours each week, saying “no” to my brother more
7: What risks would I start taking that I’m afraid to take now?
Examples: joining a running club, reaching out to friends from college, hiring a new employee
8: What goals would I set and work toward?
Examples: losing 20 pounds, starting a business, getting my college degree, running a marathon
Faith means you stop taking orders from your fears. Don’t let fear rob you of another day.