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How To Be Emotionally Healthy (Part 1)

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I’m a middle child from a loud and emotional family. Growing up, everyone expressed how they felt – except for me. I decided at a young age to hide my feelings and live inside my head. There’s a correlation between a lack of healthy emotional expression with depression and anxiety. How do I know this? Well, from research, as well as, from my own personal experience. From age 16 to 22, I used negative coping mechanisms to contain my feelings (e.g. worry, alcohol, nicotine, social isolation, etc.) Some of these coping...

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7 Questions That Can Positively Transform Your Relationship

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Here’s 7 questions you can ask your partner each week to help you bond. They could positively transform your connection. 7 Great Questions 1. What are the main stressors for you this week? What can I do to help? 2. What’s something I can do to help you with your career, parenting, health, friendships, or your spiritual life? 3. How can we make time to connect this week? What would you like to do to connect? 4. What’s one thing I can do MORE of this week to help our relationship? 5. What’s one thing I can do LESS of...

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Why You Should Deal with Your Past (Part 2)

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You cannot erase your past, but you can change your perspective. You have influence over your attitude and actions today, not what happened yesterday.  Some people will do almost anything to avoid addressing their past. Trying to go back and make sense of it all seems too painful. What they don’t understand is that not making peace with their past causes much more long term pain. Closure brings freedom. 3 More BIG Reasons to Go Back & Get...

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50 Excellent & Fun Relationship Building Questions

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Genuine, authentic, and heartfelt conversations connect people and can transform relationships. Here’s a list of 50 of my favorite relationship building questions. They’re mostly light and fun, get you to think, and come from 20 years of getting people to open up as a professional counselor. Save it on your desktop or print off this tool to build relationships at work, home, and with your friends. It works great for team meetings and family events (e.g. Easter weekend). Enjoy! 50 Relationship Building Questions My passion is to...

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How to Stop Worrying & Get Out of Your Head

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With all I know about mental health, I still get stuck in worry. I’m often the most negative person I know. Here are three things you must do to get unstuck from your fears and anxieties. Watch the Video Below Funny Videos I’ve Watched Dozens of Times:Ultimate Dog TeaseJim Gaffigan – Camping, waking up, and baconThe Farting Old Man Returns! Purchase The Legacy Jar for $20 An Excellent Communication Game & Tool To Strengthen Your Work Team, Family, and Friendships.  The Legacy Jar Adam Gragg is a corporate...

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How to Create a Positive & Productive Work Environment

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Over the past 20 years as a therapist, trainer, and coach, I’ve helped over 1,000 families and over 250 companies thrive. There are similarities between the healthiest companies and families. Here are three traits they have in common. 1. They Foster Healthy Connection They consistently create opportunities for relationships to form and go deeper. Members spend quality time together. Activities are intentionally planned, and everyone looks forward to these times together. Encourage Connection at Work by …. Planning regular social...

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Stop Letting Fear Damage Your Life

Posted by on 7:06 pm in Blog, Healthy Thinking, Productivity, Relationships, Stress | 0 comments

What’s your biggest fear in life? Mine is probably rejection in its various forms. I want people to like me. Ironically, the more I try and be what other people want me to be, the more fear I have. My anxiety also grows the more I hide from situations where I can be rejected. When I follow my heart, ignore my head, and put myself out there, anxiety loses its power. “So, first of all, let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself – nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes...

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12 Dating & Marriage Building Activities

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If a healthy romantic relationship were easy, more people would have one. Whether you are in a dating relationship, engaged, or married, here are 12 activities that can take your relationship from average to extraordinary. #1: Schedule FunMake a list of 15 activities that you enjoy engaging in with your significant other. Make sure some of the activities cost little to no money. Exchange lists. Put some of these activities into your schedule.# 2: Encouragement ListsBoth you and your significant other make a list of 10 things the other person...

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Why You Should Deal With Your Past (Part 1)

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I ask clients, usually during the first few sessions, to tell me any trauma they’ve experienced (e.g. abandonment, assault, abuse, accidents, death of a loved one, etc.). Anything they think could have negatively impacted them. Sometimes they share openly, sometimes they share with hesitation, and sometimes they become defensive. When they open up, they nearly always find it relieving to talk about and process through difficult life experiences. I want my clients to live full and rich lives, and I don’t want the past to hold...

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5 Steps to Establishing Life Balance (Part 3)

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Evaluate Your Life and Adjust it to a “7” Something special happens when you live with balance. Life becomes more enjoyable and more exciting. You’re more productive. Things start snapping into place. I’ve posted the first two steps to establishing life balance in Part 1 and Part 2. If you read these posts, you know it’s not perfection. Your goal is to get each area to “good enough”. Here’s step 3 in getting your life more balanced. Step 3:...

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