How to Like & Value Yourself

Focus on Your Best Qualities

January 2, 2024 | Emotional Health
By Adam Gragg

Good people are drawn to those who like themselves.

Many believe their value comes from their performance in different areas of life (career, health, finances, marriage, etc.). When they do well, they get validation and feel valued. They feel worthless when they fail or don’t achieve as they hoped.

Getting your value from your performance or the opinions of others is believing a lie. One of my all-time favorite books, You Are Special, addresses this magnificently.

You Won’t Gain Long Term Confidence From:

What others think about you
Your job or career or where you work
Your achievements
What you own (car, home, business, etc.)
How much money you have
Your kids, spouse, friends
The credentials/degrees you’ve earned
Your physical appearance
The condition of your health
Your skills and abilities

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You Will Gain Confidence From 2 Thing

1. Taking Action & Getting Results

This means taking actions that challenge you to grow, like reaching out to people professionally and personally and letting go of the outcome. This means taking emotional risks where you could get rejected.

2. Liking Yourself

You cannot fix an internal problem with an external solution. The solution to liking yourself lies within YOU. Get to know yourself. Your uniqueness comes from the traits and life experiences you’re proud of and your failures and weaknesses. You can better help others because of your setbacks.

“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves by seen.” – Brene Brown

3 Questions to Find Your Real Value

1. How are you put together?
2. What draws your attention?
3. What life experiences have shaped you?

Here’s a fillable pdf worksheet called Know Your True Value Worksheet to guide you through the process of identifying your positive intrinsic traits.

You can only be your true self if you know your true worth. Knowing your value gives you the confidence to face life’s challenges. It gives the confidence to face rejection. If you feel good about yourself, it’s much easier to not take things people say and do personally.