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How To Be a Better Friend to Yourself

3 Tools For Improving Your Self Care

By on Sep 25, 2018 in Stress | 0 comments

Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the US. On average, there are over 100 suicides each day and over 40,000 each year. So much suicide can be prevented by caring for yourself. 

It doesn’t matter if you’re rich or poor, old or young, healthy or sick. Your life, like mine, will always have difficult times. Sometimes we can predict these moments, but usually they catch us by surprise. Be proactive! Nobody can take better care of you than you!

Tool #1: Energizers & Drainers

Here’s a worksheet I use with clients to identify the people, places, and things that energize and drain them. Engage what fills you up and minimize what depletes you. 


Choose today to love yourself! This may seem like a simplistic solution to a complex problem, but the simple solutions are the best. The simple solutions are the ones that stick. Being good to yourself is a choice.

Tool #2: Enjoy Hobbies

Here are two lists of hobbies. Make a list of the ones you might find interesting and energizing. 
List of 300 Hobbies and List of 100 Hobbies

Tool #3: Be Good to Yourself

Create list of activities to turn to when your self worth dwindles. Select 6 activities below. Add your own activities if missing. Engaging this list could save your life. 

    1. Read a favorite magazine
    2. List 5 things you are grateful for today
    3. Cook or bake something
    4. Search for a new book
    5. Garden
    6. Listen to a podcast
    7. Write a thank you note
    8. Call a friend from the past
    9. Listen to music
    10. Search for a new recipe
    11. Visit a friend
    12. Volunteer
    13. Play a card game
    14. Singing
    15. Call your best friend
    16. Play a computer game
    17. Make jewelry
    18. Write a letter
    19. Knitting
    20. Set goals
    21. Prayer & mediation
    22. Plan out your evening
    23. Read old letters/journals
    24. Plan out your next day
    25. Organize
    26. Pottery
    27. Collecting things
    28. Memorize poetry or quotes
    29. Explore somewhere new
    30. Play a board game
    31. Research a topic online
    32. Rearrange furniture
    33. Join a book club
    34. Learn an new instrument
    35. Think about a favorite hobby

    1. Read a book
    2. Visit a museum
    3. Ride a bike
    4. Write down 3 goals for the month
    5. Photography
    6. Organize and edit pictures
    7. Breath deeply
    8. Stretch
    9. Take a walk
    10. Go fishing
    11. Search for new music
    12. Group exercise
    13. Swimming
    14. Hiking
    15. Pets
    16. Writing
    17. Watch a favorite movie
    18. Watch a new movie
    19. Make something crafty
    20. Do a puzzle
    21. Draw or paint
    22. Juggle
    23. Play a sport
    24. Play a favorite instrument
    25. Practical jokes
    26. Make a To Do list
    27. Martial Arts
    28. Woodworking
    29. Furniture restoration
    30. Bird watching
    31. Look at old family picture
    32. Take a nap
    33. List 5 things you are excited about today
    34. Illusions and tricks
    35. Run a side business
    36. Researching family history
    37. Garage sales/thrift shops

From working as a counselor since 1998, I’m convinced that every person has the potential to be at a very low place. I’m no exception. I’ve had some very dark days. Take this activity seriously, your future depends on it. 

Question: What is something healthy you can do for yourself today? What’s stopping you?