How To Have Positive Holidays

5 Tools for Enjoying Time With Friends & Family

November 27, 2019 |

holiday coffee party

If you get anxious about time with family and friends during the holidays, this information will help. Here are tools to get you past your fears and into the fun.

Tool #1 : Lower Your Expectations

Perfectionism is the enemy. Unrealistic expectation is the root of most stress. At the end of a family event, be happy if it was a 7, on a scale of 1 – 10.

Tool #2: Use Ice Breakers

Intentionally get conversations started. A common ice breaker on Thanksgiving is to have everyone share something they’re thankful for over the past year.  Here’s 10 Fun Ice Breakers for more ideas.  

Tool #3: Be Curious

Learn about others. Ask questions they’ll enjoy discussing (e.g. kids, job, sports, hobbies, etc.) and listen. Don’t talk about yourself unless asked. Prepare great questions in advance. 

Tool #4: Do Something New

Take a risk by trying something new. Make a new pie or try a new recipe. Play a new game. Invite guests over for the meal. Do this especially if it makes you uncomfortable.

Tool #5: Don’t Take Things Personally

Just let others be negative. Their negativity is because they’re hurting and protecting themselves from getting hurt again. It’s not personal. Focus on their positive qualities and choose to be positive regardless. 

Holidays are opportunities to not only rest, but for personal growth. Make the most of them!

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