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How to Connect with Almost Anyone

A Tool for Building Relationships

By on Aug 5, 2019 in Relationships | 2 comments

Nobody can succeed and thrive in life without loving relationships. We are not fueled by achievement, but by connection.

If you get this backwards, you’ll feel worthless when you fail, life stops going well, or others achieve more. Furthermore, you’ll end up miserable as a victim of the comparison trap.

Very few people feel deeply worthy of love. Both your friends and your enemies, if they’re honest with themselves, struggle with feeling inadequate. People desperately want to feel accepted, and you can help them by cultivating the habit of expressing genuine interest in their lives.

“Find your voice and inspire others to find theirs.” – Stephen Covey

Challenge yourself to collect information on the “favorites” of your friends, family, and co-workers. When you subtly, or even bluntly, gather this information, it makes them feel valued. It also gives you insight into how to encourage them in the future.

I’ve found that most people light up when someone is curious about them. Most people want to be known, not anonymous.

Click the button below for a worksheet I’ve used to help clients get to know themselves. Why am I using a self-reflection activity in an article on building relationships? Because you can use the same questions to create or deepen connection with others! It turns out relationships – whether with yourself or others – come from taking action to know more about a person.


Don’t engage in this activity unless you’re willing to listen. People will notice if you’re hurried or insincere. Look for natural opportunities to ask.

Your co-workers will probably forget that you gathered these favorites. I’ve had fun getting someone their favorite candy and them wondering how I knew they liked it.

Even people who dislike me enjoy conversation about their interests. Use this tool to transform your relationships at work and in life.

“Don’t give to get. Give to inspire others to give.” – Simon Sinek

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Adam Gragg is a corporate trainer, life coach, and mental health therapist. He is skilled at helping workplace teams thrive. He specializes in life transitions, career issues, family counseling, and helping people overcome anxiety and depression. Contact Adam here if interested in seeing how he can help you and/or your team thrive.