How To Reach Your Goals (Part 1)
9 Goal-Setting Traps to Avoid
To reach your goals in 2020, it’s important to know why many people miss the mark. Here are the 9 most common traps that snag people.
9 Goal-Setting Traps
Trap #1: Lack of Clarify
Many are not clear about what they want. Take the time to clarify what you really want and don’t succumb to pressure from others. Are these my goals or am I trying to impress someone? Are they mine or are my aims driven by pressure from others?
Trap #2: Not In Writing
A goal that is written is 10 times more likely to be achieved. If you know what you want to achieve but write nothing down, you’ll most likely forget to focus on the target.
Trap #3: Too Complicated
Your goals should be phrased in the simplest and most concise language possible. Brian Tracy, an expert on goal-setting, says you should write your goal so that a 6 year old can understand it.
“The simpler the statement, the faster your subconscious can go to work on it. The rule is a child should be able to understand your goal and tell it to another 6-year old child, and that child should be able to tell it to another 6-year old child.” – Brian Tracy
Trap #4: Too Many
You’ll feel overwhelmed and shut down when you have too many goals. It’s good to dream about improving all areas of your life, but you must prioritize. Focusing on more than 3 targets at a time is too many.
Trap #5: Unrealistic.
Setting goals that are not challenging is rarely an issue. Usually, people aim at things they’re not equipped to achieve in the period of time they desire. Run your goals by success-oriented people who can help you see if they are doable.
“Our goals can only be reached through a vehicle of a plan, in which we must fervently believe, and upon which we must vigorously act. There is no other route to success.” —Pablo Picasso
Trap #6: Hidden From Others
The right people need to be aware of your goals. You need external accountability. I do best when some strategic friends consistently ask me about my progress.
When a goal is written and shared with a friend for accountability, success is 100 times more likely
Trap #7: Hidden From Yourself
We write down our goals and then we forget about them because we never look at them. Set them up as reminders on your phone. Post them somewhere in your office, inside your car, and on your bathroom mirror. Looking at the target frequently will keep you focused.
Trap #8: No Celebration
Sometimes reaching a goal is the reward in itself, but often you need more. When you celebrate achievement, that trains your brain and increases your motivation for your next goal. The reward can be small (e.g. a meal, new clothing item, coffee mug, etc.) Make a list of ways to reward yourself and attach a specific reward to each goal.
Trap #9: Stuck in Anxiety
You might have anxiety that needs to be addressed. Anxiety causes all kinds of issues with avoiding the important things in life. Getting at the roots of your anxiety will free you to focus. A skilled counselor or coach can help.
Not making progress in at least some areas of your life (relationships, career, financial, social, etc.) causes depression. Furthermore, everyone, if they are honest with themselves, wants to progress. Nobody wants to remain stuck. When we advance towards goals, increased happiness and life satisfaction is an eventual result. Decide to make 2018 a huge success!
“The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score.” —Bill Copeland
What are your top 3 goals for 2020? Which of these traps could most get in your way?
Adam Gragg is a corporate trainer, life coach, and mental health therapist. He is skilled at helping workplace teams thrive. He specializes in life transitions, career issues, family counseling, and helping people overcome anxiety and depression. Contact Adam here if interested in seeing how he can help you and/or your team thrive.