Unrealistic expectations cause stress, depression, anxiety, addiction, relationship problems, and much more. Realistic and healthy expectations lead to balance. Below is the 2nd step. Read about the 1st Step in 5 Steps to Establishing Life Balance (Part 1).
Step 2: Define Your “7” in Each Area
Establish a “good enough” baseline for each area. “Good enough” means a “7” on a scale of 1 to 10 (1 is poor and 10 is great). Living a “10” is unsustainable because it requires so much energy that other areas are neglected. I’ve found “good enough” is better than “perfect” for your mental health.
Here’s what one of my clients decided was a “7” for each area of her life.
Example: 1 Client’s “7” in Each Life Area
Consistent time with people who influence me positively. Time alone for reflection. Bi-weekly service activities. Prayer and and devotional time each morning.
Going on a date with with my husband weekly. 5 hours of family time each week. Talking to my parents and siblings weekly.
Health & Self-Care
30 minutes of exercise 3 days each week. Sleeping over 7 hours each night. Eating healthy over 80% of the time and not eating after 7:30pm.
Reading over 5 hours each week. Watching less than 5 hours of TV weekly. Less than 15 minutes of news daily.
Social & Fun
Engaging fun activities with friends and family consistently, Playing games at least twice each month, and having time with friends at least twice monthly.
Using time blocks and artificial deadlines consistently, and delegating as much as possible. Making progress on my career goals and most essential work tasks.
Spending according to our budget and consistently saving money. Communicating with my husband weekly about our finances. Spending money on fund activities each month.
Describe a “7” rather than a “10” in each area of your life? Challenge your standards. Trust you intuition with this activity by quickly writing down what comes up.
Health & Self-Care:
Social & Fun:
Clarifying your “7” is a major step towards balance. You now have a point of measurement in evaluating your life. My desire is to look at each area of my life wheel and be able to say, “It’s not perfect, but it’s going well”.
In step 3, I’ll challenge you to evaluate your life consistently in each area and make adjustments.
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