18 Ways to Build Self-Confidence (Part 2)
Tough Decisions that WILL Transform Your Life
I once boxed in an amateur boxing tournament. I did it to prove to myself that I could face fear. It was a good decision.
Building confidence always involves facing your fears. Here are 9 more confidence building decisions. If you didn’t read part 1 where I discuss the first 9 of these 18 actions, you can access it here.
“Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing.” – Theodore Roosevelt
18 Confidence Building Decisions
Decision #10: Be Humble
I can be filled with self-pity while focusing on how others are better than me. I can be arrogant by focusing on how I might be better than others. Both perspectives are faulty. I’m at my best when I’m humble remembering that I’m no better and no worse than anyone else.
Decision #11: Take a Break from Work
It takes faith for me to not engage in work for a full day, but when I do, it helps me. Stepping away from work helps you understand what’s really important. It motivates you to be more efficient while working as well. Try a half day if a full day seems overwhelming.
Decision #12: Create a Vision
Create in your mind a clear picture of what you want your life to be like ideally in the future. It could be 2, 5, 10, or 20 years from now, the time frame is less important than being very specific about your dreams. Spend your free time reflecting on this vision and live today as if it were your reality. Here’s an article and worksheet that can help.
Decision #13: Go to Acceptance
This is key to unlocking the joy of today. Acceptance of yourself, others, your past, and your current circumstances gives you a foundation to build upon. You may need to say the serenity prayer over and over again.
“God, grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, and Wisdom to know the difference.” – Reinhold Niebuhr
Decision #14: Explore Your Options
You have options! You’re not trapped! Look into new career options, new hobbies, new social activities. You can still be a loyal and committed person while keeping your heart open to new opportunities.
Decision#15: Create a Life Plan
I’ve had 3 different life coaches. They’ve all helped me clarify my life plan, which I call a Legacy Plan, and challenged me to go further than I thought possible. My clients create their own Legacy Plan through Decide Your Legacy’s 12 session coaching process.
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” ― Lao Tzu
Decision #16: Live in The Now
Don’t dwell on your past mistakes and failures. Don’t worry about your future. All you really have is today. Focus on making the most of each moment you have. Live today like it could be your last day on earth because it could be.
Decision #17: Improve Your Social Skills
Do something every day to get better socially. Gain skill in dealing with people and your confidence will grow. Read and apply the information from books like How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie and Skill With People by Les Giblin.
Decision #18: Be Generous
Give away your time and resources to mentor and support others. DO THIS ANONYMOUSLY! Your motivation should not be to fix people, but rather to inspire them to grasp and reach their potential.
Adam Gragg is a corporate trainer, life coach, and mental health therapist. He is skilled at helping workplace teams thrive. He specializes in life transitions, career issues, family counseling, and helping people overcome anxiety and depression. Contact Adam here if interested in seeing how he can help you and/or your team thrive.