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11 Marriage Building Activities to Make Your Marriage Extraordinary

By on Jun 15, 2015 in Marriage | 8 comments

Having a good marriage isn’t easy. If a good marriage were easy, more people would have one. A healthy marriage takes great effort, but it’s well worth it, especially when you count the costs of divorce (financial, emotional, etc.). Here are 11 activities that can take your marriage from average to extraordinary.


#1: Schedule Fun
Make a list of 15 activities that you enjoy engaging in with your spouse. Make sure some of the activities cost little to no money. Exchange lists. Put some of these activities into your schedule.
# 2: Encouragement Lists
My wife and I learned about this activity from a marriage counselor we saw. Both you and your spouse make a list of 10 things your spouse can do to encourage you. Exchange lists. Consistently do what’s on your spouse’s list.
#3: Make a Budget
Yes, this can actually build your marriage. To have a successful budget takes BOTH spouses. Creating a budget and sticking to it requires teamwork at a whole new level.
#4: Question Jar
Put some relationship building questions in a jar, pick a question, and answer that question. Sign up for our newsletter and you will receive a free PDF of 50 of our favorite questions so you can make your own jar. You can also purchase our already made question jar (The Legacy Jar) that has 108 great questions for $20 here.
#5: Exercise Together
As the saying goes “a couple that works out together, stays together.” Actually, I don’t know if this is true, but what I do know is that exercise is great for you mindset and sense of wellbeing – traits that are part of a healthy marriage.
#6: Learn about Marriage Together
You can read marriage books together. You can attend a weekend marriage conference. You can see a counselor for a marriage check up. Opportunities to learn about having a healthy marriage abound if you look for them.
#7: Pray Together
Jennifer and I like to pray before bed and sometimes before we leave for work. This is a special activity we share together that has brought up closer. There is great power in prayer.
#8: Admiration Lists
Write down 15 things you admire, appreciate, or are thankful for related to your spouse. Write down the details. Exchange lists.
#9: Entertain Together
Entertaining magnifies the sense of team you have or don’t have. If you don’t have a strong sense of team now, having people over can help you learn to work together.
#10: Get Marriage Mentors
Spend time around other couples with health marriages. You don’t need to call them your “marriage mentors” and they don’t need to know they serve this role. Let them rub off on you remembering that the quality of your marriage will ultimately be similar to the marriages of those you hang around the most.
#11: Set Goals Together
You can start by setting goals for the next 6 months together in 7 different life areas: health, social, intellectual, spiritual, financial, family, and career. Agree upon on goal in each area. Post these goals on your fridge.

These are some simple and, for the most part, fun activities to strengthen your marriage (yes, budgeting is simple, but I didn’t say it was easy). Incorporate one activity into your marriage each month or even each week and experience the positive impact on your relationship. Think of marriage building activities as “affair and divorce proofing” your marriage.

Question: There are a lot of other great marriage building activities. What is one you can think of not on this list?