Most procrastination is driven by fear. You avoid facing things because, subconsciously, you believe it keeps you safe (i.e. "I won't get hurt/rejected/judged, like in the past, if I don't engage").
Do you have tasks at home and work you keep avoiding? Think of these as "loose ends" or "mental clut...
The reason to go back and your past is so that you're no longer victimized by it. Denial and its various forms (e.g., minimization, rationalization, avoidance, etc.) allow your past to continue to negatively impact your mindset and emotional health.
Putting it to rest, accepting it, letting it go, ...
At times, I can become extremely negative. My mind starts focusing on everything that could go wrong, the opportunities I have missed, the mistakes I have made, and the fear that my life could fall apart.
When I get into that mindset, my perspective is not accurate. I lose sight of what is going we...
In seventh grade, on the last day of school, a kid kept pushing me hard from behind. I asked him to stop several times, but he refused.
I finally told myself, “If he does that again, I’m spitting in his face.” When he pushed me again, that is exactly what I did.
I am not recommending that respons...
My purpose in life is to help others find transformational clarity that propels them to face their biggest fears to LIVE & leave the legacy they desire. Read more to learn how my team fulfills this purpose.
I had a big problem in 7th grade. I was being bullied. Hair spray was sprayed in my face, I ...
Life is hard! It brings us many challenges we didn't expect and weren't prepared to face. I've had days when I've struggled to stay hopeful. Many people vacillate between hope and fear. I write this post to remind myself and to remind you to choose hope.
There are two orientations towards life: a f...
Nobody can succeed and thrive in life without loving relationships. We are not fueled long-term by achievement. We are fueled when we connect with others.
If you get this backward, you'll feel worthless when you fail, life stops going well, or others achieve more. Furthermore, you'll end up miserab...
Fear of rejection is one of the biggest fears most people face. When you reach out to someone, you risk not getting the response you hoped for. That fear can feel paralyzing.
Vulnerability means taking action without a guarantee of a positive outcome. But choosing not to play it safe is often the o...
Clients often ask for help managing stress. Most people can identify what’s creating their tension—conflict, parenting, relationships, finances, work, health—but they struggle to use that awareness in a way that actually helps them cope.
A significant amount of stress comes from investing our energ...
I struggle with managing stress. It's a fight to keep my stress under control. The good news is that I can win this fight, and so can you.
Over the last 25 years, I've created and experimented with over 100 different perspective-shifting tools. All the tools frequently help clients learn to manage ...
Some life lessons can only be learned through our biggest setbacks. Writing this post, I started to realize that each tip below will not only help you heal but also can make your current relationships stronger TODAY.
While I'm writing to help my audience, I'm also writing to remind myself of what I...
Have you ever wondered what makes a marriage thrive? Have you ever wanted to know how to take your marriage from "good" to "great"? The happiest married couples do some things differently.
According to marriage expert Dr. John Gottman, part of the answer is found in 5 hours each week. Through extens...
