The healthiest couples share one key trait: self-awareness. They’re willing to look at themselves honestly, accept feedback, and make changes.
After more than 25 years as a family therapist, I’ve watched the same core issues quietly erode marriages when they go unaddressed.
Often, if those couples...
I love great poetry. It has a way of bringing clarity and revealing the next steps I need to take. Like many people, I often place myself in the poem--as if I'm a character in the story--and reflect on how its message aligns with where I'm headed.
The most powerful poems do more than stir emotion--...
If you want to excel in life, being able to stay calm when feeling overwhelmed is an essential skill. The consequences of not doing so can be significant (e.g., addiction, damaging relationships, job loss, missed opportunities, etc.).
Knowing your triggers (people, places, and situations) and how y...
Who in your life do you trust the most? What makes it is it easy to trust them? Who is someone you struggle to trust? What makes it hard?
How do you know when you can trust someone and how do they know they can trust you? Here are 7 essentiasl to look for and model in yourself when building trust b...
As your self-confidence improves, other parts of your life improve as well. Often relationships strengthen, you see opportunities you missed before, and your focus & creativity improve. You CAN improve your self-confidence by taking action.
While you might believe that self-confidence is something ...
Keeping a journal is an often underutilized tool that provides incredible insight when done properly and consistently. It's essential to clarify my thoughts and feelings and to identify the lies I'm believing.
I find that one of the biggest challenges to getting started with journaling (aside from ...
We all have seasons in our lives when it's very hard to be positive. I can easily view myself as the victim. Gratitude is one of the only things that can end my pity party.
Focusing on gratitude has helped me on my darkest days. It helps me get focused on what's right rather than what's wrong...
Healthy people are drawn to those who like themselves. Being around people who have confidence in their worth and abilities will build your own self-esteem.
Many believe their value comes from their performance in different areas of life (career, health, finances, marriage, etc.). When they do well...
In 1998, I was on a flight with severe turbulence. What probably lasted fifteen minutes felt like hours. When it was over, I assumed I was fine. I wasn’t.
A few months later, I had another trip scheduled. Flying had always been exciting—something I genuinely enjoyed. This time, the excitement was g...
It's easy to find things to worry about and dread. Being grateful is often hard, yet ironically, our gratitude is more grounded in reality than our fears. So many things in life are outside our control, but one thing you can directly influence is your perspective.
You can focus on what's going wron...
Since founding Decide Your Legacy in 2012, I’ve worked with four different coaches. Each one played a meaningful role in helping me grow the business and myself as a leader.
The results you experience in coaching depend, in part, on the quality of the professional you choose. I’m often asked who I ...
Living with balance lowers stress and anxiety. You’re less reactive, more grounded, and better able to handle pressure without feeling overwhelmed.
Many people struggle with balance because perfectionism gets in the way. They hesitate to make the brave shifts in time and energy required for a well-...
