Healthily navigating conflict is how you build trust and cohesiveness within your team and family. People who consistently avoid conflict miss out on insight, opportunties and growth in their relationships.

Avoiding difficult conversations eliminates the opportunity for learning and dialogue. A dia...

Most problems don’t explode overnight—they quietly compound.

Unspoken frustrations turn into assumptions. Assumptions turn into resentment. Resentment hardens into distance.  

What started as a conversation you “meant to have someday” becomes the reason trust erodes, teams disengage, and relationships...

Meaningful conversations have changed my life. I long for them. You can create an environment where meaningful discussions happen consistently by asking the right questions.

I bet you can connect many of the positive turning points in your life to inspiration that came from answering the right ques...

Most people procrastinate because they fear failure, and psychologically, they view something that's not perfect as failure. Their avoidance, driven by anxiety, can make them appear lazy.

Clients share with me frustrations about not getting things done. They put off reading, exercise, eating health...

If you want to excel in life, being able to stay calm when feeling overwhelmed is an essential skill. The consequences of not doing so can be significant (e.g., addiction, damaging relationships, job loss, missed opportunities, etc.).

Knowing your triggers (people, places, and situations) and how y...

Keeping a journal is an often underutilized tool that provides incredible insight when done properly and consistently. It's essential to clarify my thoughts and feelings and identify the lies I believe.

I find that one of the biggest challenges to getting started with journaling (aside from literal...

We all have seasons in our lives when it's very hard to be positive. I can easily view myself as the victim. Gratitude is one of the only things that can end my pity party.

Focusing on gratitude has helped me on my darkest days. It helps me get focused on what's right rather than what's wrong...

It's easy to find things to worry about and dread. Being grateful is often hard, yet ironically, our gratitude is more grounded in reality than our fears. So many things in life are outside our control, but one thing you can directly influence is your perspective.

You can focus on what's going wron...

Decide Your Legacy was created to help people gain transformational clarity and face the fears that keep them stuck—so they can intentionally live their lives and ultimately leave the legacy they desire.

Along the way, my own insecurities sometimes pulled me off course. I played it safe. I drifte...

In seventh grade, on the last day of school, a kid kept pushing me hard from behind. I asked him to stop several times, but he refused. 

I finally told myself, “If he does that again, I’m spitting in his face.” When he pushed me again, that is exactly what I did.

I am not recommending that respons...

Life is hard! It brings us many challenges we didn't expect and weren't prepared to face. I've had days when I've struggled to stay hopeful. Many people vacillate between hope and fear. I write this post to remind myself and to remind you to choose hope.

There are two orientations towards life: a f...

Clients often ask for help managing stress. Most people can identify what’s creating their tension—conflict, parenting, relationships, finances, work, health—but they struggle to use that awareness in a way that actually helps them cope.

A significant amount of stress comes from investing our energ...