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What to Do When Emotionally Overwhelmed

By on Sep 17, 2017 in Relationships, Stress | 0 comments

Ever had a conversation and then suddenly, out of nowhere, you become emotionally overwhelmed? Maybe this has happened with a boss, co-workers, or someone in your family. Maybe they say something you perceive as hurtful or threatening. Possibly they remind you of someone who mistreated you in the past. Do you know what triggered you? Do they know? In these...

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How to Improve the Culture in Your Workplace

By on Sep 9, 2017 in Relationships | 0 comments

As a therapist, I’ve probably supported over a thousand families since 1999. Since 2008, I’ve helped out hundreds of companies and workplace teams as well. I’ve found many similarities between workplace teams and families that have a healthy culture. Here are three traits they have in common. 1. They Foster Healthy Connections They consistently create...

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How to Connect with Almost Anyone

By on Aug 22, 2017 in Relationships | 2 comments

We are not fueled by achievement, but by connection. Loving and supportive relationships are necessary to thrive. As a result of getting this backwards, when you fail, or life stops going well, or others achieve more, you’ll feel worthless. Furthermore, you’ll end up miserable just like all victims of the comparison trap. In my experience, very few...

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15 Ways Adults Can Make Friends

By on Aug 1, 2017 in Relationships | 0 comments

Recently I spent 3 hours with a close friend from high school. I feared reaching out to him because it had been over 5 years since we last connected. Thoughts like “he doesn’t want to see me”, “he’s too busy with his family”, and even “he doesn’t like me any more” stuck in my mind. The time together was...

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Are You Emotionally Constipated? (Part 1)

By on Jul 2, 2017 in Relationships, Stress | 0 comments

I’m a middle child from a fairly loud and emotional family. Looking back, it seems like everyone expressed how they felt, except me. I decided at a young age to live inside my head and hide my feelings. As a therapist, I see a strong correlation between a lack of healthy emotionally expression with both depression and anxiety. “Live in your head,...

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Are You Emotionally Constipated? (Part 2)

By on Jul 1, 2017 in Relationships, Stress | 0 comments

Being vulnerable on an emotional level is terrifying. One reason I became a therapist is to appear like I’ve got things together. When people come to me for help, I’m seen as the expert, therefore I remain in control. I’m more comfortable helping than being helped. Asking for help is scary. Not being in control is even more terrifying. I shared...

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