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How to Change Negative Core Beliefs About Yourself (Part 1)

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In 5th grade I was accused of dancing on a table during lunch. The principle embarrassed me in front of a packed lunchroom. She then brought me to her office where her and the vice-principle harassed for what seemed like an hour. I cried and cried knowing I was innocent.  Because I was threatened, I never told my parents. Decades later I learned I was targeted in retaliation for a complaint my parents made about my brother’s first grade teacher. I rarely thought about this incident until a friend asked me about my first traumatic memory...

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How to Change Negative Core Beliefs About Yourself (Part 2)

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If you read How to Change Negative Core Beliefs About Yourself (Part 1), you looked at 20 common limiting mindsets and 5 questions to help replace them. Below are real examples of ways people have replaced destructive core beliefs with empowering ones. “Thinking is the hardest work there is, which is probably the reason why so few engage in it.” -Henry Ford At a recent football game, my daughter, Emerson, saw one of her friends hanging out with some kids she didn’t know that well. She wanted to join the fun, but she was...

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How to Be Grateful When Life Is Hard (Part 1)

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How you think is one of the few things in life you can directly influence. How you feel is directly connected to what you focus on the most. You can believe a lie as easily as  believing something that is true, especially when stressed. Gratitude is the best way to focus your mind on truth. It’s easy to dream up bad things, but gratitude is grounded in reality. “There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” – Albert Einstein Each morning, I list 5...

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How to Be Grateful When Life Is Hard (Part 2)

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In How to Be Grateful When Life is Hard (Part 1), you learned how what you focus on the most impacts you. It’s hard work to live with gratitude, but there is no other way to be emotionally healthy.  “Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out.” ~ John Wooden I challenge nearly all my clients to do the Daily 5 & 5 for a week. They list 5 positives from yesterday and 5 things they are excited about later in the day. It almost always makes a big difference.  Many resist at first, but those...

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How To Be a Better Friend to Yourself

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Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the US. On average, there are over 100 suicides each day and over 40,000 each year. So much suicide can be prevented by caring for yourself.  It doesn’t matter if you’re rich or poor, old or young, healthy or sick. Your life, like mine, will always have difficult times. Sometimes we can predict these moments, but usually they catch us by surprise. Be proactive! Nobody can take better care of you than you! Tool #1: Energizers & Drainers Here’s a worksheet I use with clients to...

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16 Ways to Build Self-Confidence (Part 2)

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Here are 8 more confidence building decisions. If you didn’t read part one, where I discuss the first 8 of these 16 actions, you can access it here.  “Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing.” – Theodore Roosevelt   16 Confidence Building Decisions Decision #9: Take a Break from Work It takes faith for me to take a full or half day off, but when I do, it helps me. Stepping away from work helps you understand what’s really important. It motivates you to be more...

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16 Ways to Build Self-Confidence (Part 1)

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My confidence has taken a beating in recent years. I’ve had some low moments. Rebuilding my confidence comes down to making hard DECISIONS. Here are the actions I’m trying to take to believe in myself again. They will help you as well.  12 Confidence Building Decisions Decision #1: Grow in Humility I can be filled with self-pity, focusing on how others are better than me. I can be arrogant, focusing on how I might be better than others. Both perspectives are wrong. I’m always at my best when I’m humble, remembering...

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10 Fun Ice Breakers for Work Meetings & Social Events

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If you lead or attend work meetings or social events, this information will help you. Ice breakers, to start off a meeting, can make a positive difference in the outcome. How Ice Breakers Help • By setting a positive tone for the meeting • They build team camaraderie • They set the stage for open and positive communication • You learn new and interesting things about your group • They can get people laughing (for the right reasons) I’ve led ice breakers for many business gatherings. Here are my 10 favorites. 10 Team Building Ice...

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How to Be Less Critical & More Encouraging

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I can be critical of others. That’s been my strategy for staying safe. With clients and strangers I’m encouraging, but with friends and family I can be a butt. If I’m critical, people stay away and don’t hurt me. It’s an unhealthy strategy, but it has served a purpose. Here are 5 relationship strategies helping me break this bad habit.   1. Count the Consequences Count the costs of being a critical person long term. How will this impact my relationships with family and friends? Play it forward 5 or 10 years and...

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A Transformational Self-Confidence Building Activity

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I have deeply rooted feelings of unworthiness. Even though I’ve had success in life, these feelings never totally go away. I have to fight them each day.  Many of my clients have a similar struggle with insecurity. They believe their value comes from their performance, just like I do. When they succeed, they get affirmation from others, and they feel loved. When they fail, or don’t achieve in some life area, the affirmation and perceived love stops. Getting your value from performing well, or the opinions of others, will always...

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