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Reach Your Personal Goals in 2018 (Part 3)

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Here’s a goal setting activity I’ve used with dozens of clients. It takes no more than 15 minutes to complete. You can do it personally or with your team. Works great as a team building activity where everyone shares their results. With this task, I’ve found that most set the same goals in 15 minutes that they would if given 15 days. The time limit forces your mind to focus and your intuition to engage. Set a timer and trust your instincts. “The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and...

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Reach Your Personal Goals in 2018 (Part 2)

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If you’ve written down some goals for 2018, you should be proud. Everything starts with clarifying what you want. Anxiety is a huge obstacle in moving towards goals. Fear of being criticized and rejected keeps me from taking the leap. Some don’t start because they fear letting themselves down and not being able to cope. Whatever the challenge, getting STARTED on your goals is easier if you answer these 4 questions. Questions On Your Goals 1. What is the main obstacle and how can I overcome it? 2. How can I get accountability...

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Reach Your Personal Goals in 2018 (Part 1)

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To reach your goals in 2018, it’s important to know why many people miss the mark. Here are the 9 most common traps that snag people. 9 Goal-Setting Traps Trap #1: Lack of Clarify Many are not clear about what they want. Take the time to clarify what you really want and don’t succumb to pressure from others. Are these my goals or am I trying to impress someone? Are they mine or are my aims driven by pressure from others? Trap #2: Not In Writing A goal that is written is 10 times more likely to be achieved. If you know what you...

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15 Questions to Ignite Meaningful Conversations

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Powerful conversations have transformed my life for the better. I long for them. While there are no guarantees, you can create an environment where meaningful discussions are more likely to occur. Great questions are a part of creating this environment. I have a friend from college named Aaron. I remember us having meaningful talks soon after we met. They were about our hopes and dreams. They were about our problems. They were about our families. They were real. These talks ignited a friendship that remains 20 years later. There are many...

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Turn Anxiety into Hope by Answering 7 Questions

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Anxiety focuses on what can go wrong and things outside of your control. It centers around bad things from the past happening again and the worst outcome coming true. Hope focuses on what can go right or the positive potential in every circumstance. Here are some anxious thoughts clients have shared recently. Do any seem familiar? ~ “I don’t have what it takes.” ~ “I will mess things up.” ~ “The business is going to fall apart.” ~ “They are going to think I’m incompetent.” ~...

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What to Do When Emotionally Overwhelmed

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Ever had a conversation and then suddenly, out of nowhere, you become emotionally overwhelmed? Maybe this has happened with a boss, co-workers, or someone in your family. Maybe they say something you perceive as hurtful or threatening. Possibly they remind you of someone who mistreated you in the past. Do you know what triggered you? Do they know? In these emotionally flooding situations, your brain’s emotional center, called the amygdala, overrides your pre-frontal cortex, the rational part of your brain. I call this “brain-lock”,...

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How to Improve the Culture in Your Workplace

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As a therapist, I’ve probably supported over a thousand families since 1999. Since 2008, I’ve helped out hundreds of companies and workplace teams as well. I’ve found many similarities between workplace teams and families that have a healthy culture. Here are three traits they have in common. 1. They Foster Healthy Connections They consistently create opportunities for relationships to form and go deeper. Members spend both quality and quantity time together. Activities are intentionally planned, and members look forward to these...

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How to Connect with Almost Anyone

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We are not fueled by achievement, but by connection. Loving and supportive relationships are necessary to thrive. As a result of getting this backwards, when you fail, or life stops going well, or others achieve more, you’ll feel worthless. Furthermore, you’ll end up miserable just like all victims of the comparison trap. In my experience, very few people feel deeply worthy of love and acceptance. Both your friends and your enemies, if they’re honest with themselves, struggle with feelings of inadequacy. People desperately...

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A Simple & Powerful Stress Coping Tool

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Clients frequently ask for help in coping with stress. Most can identify the source of the tension (e.g. health, job, money, relationship, etc.), but they CANNOT figure out how to cope with the strain. They ruminate, which basically means that their minds get stuck on the issue. This article is to show you something you CAN do about whatever is bothering you.   Stress comes from focusing our energy on things we cannot change. Stop it! It’s an act of insanity. You’re wasting energy. It’s futile!   Before I share the...

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15 Ways Adults Can Make Friends

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Recently I spent 3 hours with a close friend from high school. I feared reaching out to him because it had been over 5 years since we last connected. Thoughts like “he doesn’t want to see me”, “he’s too busy with his family”, and even “he doesn’t like me any more” stuck in my mind. The time together was encouraging, and none of my anxious thoughts were true. I need my buddies to stay mentally and emotionally healthy. Friends are SO important because they can …… Help you see...

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