7 Questions That Can Positively Transform Your Marriage
Great Question Lead to Great Conversations
Married couples with thriving marriages have developed healthy communication habits. If they have a good marriage, they’ve learned how to communicate. If they have a good marriage, they’ve learned how to listen. They make time to understand each other.
Here are 7 questions you can ask your spouse each week to help you bond and better understand each other. Discuss them over the weekend as you prepare for the week ahead. They could positively transform your marriage.
7 Great Questions
1. What are the main stressors for you this week? What can I do to help alleviate this stress?
2. What is something I can do to help you with your career, parenting, or your spiritual life?
3. How can we make time to connect this week? What would you like to do to connect?
“The only true wisdom is in knowing that you know nothing.“ – Socrates
4. What is one thing I can do MORE of this week and one thing I can do LESS of this week to improve our relationship?
5. What is something I can do to help you with your health/fitness, finances, or social goals?
6. Is there anything I’ve done recently that has hurt you or do we have any unresolved conflicts? What can we do to reconcile?
7. What have I done recently that makes it difficult for us to communicate? What can I do to change this dynamic?
Both of you answer each question. It should take you about 15 – 30 minutes. Turn off the TV and minimize other distractions (e.g. children, pets, phones, etc.). Look at each other and really talk. Look at each other and really listen. Prove that you are listening by paraphrasing what you hear your spouse saying. Cut yourself some slack if this feels awkward. New positive habits ALWAYS feel awkward at first. Try this activity and experience the difference that good communication can make.
Question: What difference would this activity make in your marriage? What questions would you add to this list?